tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post7435010271894587832..comments2023-07-01T10:24:36.993-04:00Comments on The Gang's All Here!: To "csmith"The Gang's Momma!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12478478224173323982noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post-23655181917554138082013-04-26T18:49:24.040-04:002013-04-26T18:49:24.040-04:00Thanks so much for your response! It is generous o...Thanks so much for your response! It is generous of you to share a wider look at your family's life. And it is so helpful to others who want to adopt. When considering adoption one of my biggest concerns has been bonding, I have spent more time worrying about that than the money or health issues combined. I know I can love a child that I didn't give birth to, but I worry about them having the same strong feelings and connection with our family. My kids and I are incredibly close and I see how that has made them happier and more confident out in the world. I've worried that an adopted child might not get that with us. We are a large and busy family. I know that we would be able give a child lots of attention, but I've had a fear that we might miss some "magic window" of bonding if we have too many visitors or trips. I know that is probably an unreasonable fear so it's nice to see that other people are able to visit family and go to the store without it negatively impacting their child.csmithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04439615092702553284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post-50975891915968459662013-04-25T19:21:15.903-04:002013-04-25T19:21:15.903-04:00Thank you for sharing yourself through your blog. ...Thank you for sharing yourself through your blog. Amazing mama- amazing family! Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17416468311473653430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post-23288169705192715332013-04-25T09:43:10.731-04:002013-04-25T09:43:10.731-04:00To Aus and Reena - thanks for the perspective... a...To Aus and Reena - thanks for the perspective... again, this post is just a slice of the conversation. It flexes per child, per week, per season. And what is good this week may not work next week. By limiting the extras in our routine, we are free-er to take the "spontaneous" or the necessary changes as they come. And believe me, I'm no hermit. Li'l Empress must be picked up every day. Church must be attended. Milk must be bought. :)The Gang's Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12478478224173323982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post-27783747396521950212013-04-25T07:59:38.884-04:002013-04-25T07:59:38.884-04:00I should follow comments more GM - and please - no...I should follow comments more GM - and please - no one find anything critical here - I'm one of the "more supportive" folks you find out here in the blogsphere!<br /><br />Suffice to say that IMHO the "conventional wisdom" is good - but that every child and every adoption should also be taken as a "microcosm" of real life. What is good "most of the time" may not be good "in this case"!<br /><br />I know that you know that - and I mention it only for those "new" to the adoptive world - and I also throw out there that "occasionally" or "just this once" doesn't ruin anything either. Adoption - like most everything in life - is a series of tradeoffs. I'm struggling right now to keep my eyes open and function at the office - because last night staying up late was the right thing to do! But everyday - no. And allowing a family to begin the bonding with a newbie has advantages 10 years from now that might be unknown today!<br /><br />I'm.just.sayin... ;)<br /><br />hugs around - aus and co.Aushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02740211277947404999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post-44546885264000132612013-04-25T07:58:13.131-04:002013-04-25T07:58:13.131-04:00I've been following your journey-- glad everyo...I've been following your journey-- glad everyone made it home safe and sound. Different environments work better for different kids and families. When it comes to adoption and attachment I think after educating yourself-- I think it is always best to follow your gut. Taking the new little ones out of the house and returning also teaches them that the house is their home-- permanent. After both of our adoptions only DH and I cared for and held our new daughters-- but we still went out of the house shopping-- to the playground etc. They loved it and so did we. I can remember watching Josie especially when she really began to know and recognize her "house" when we returned home. It was great to watch!<br /><br />Best to you all!Reenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07119020258638171080noreply@blogger.com