tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post4630277529294925768..comments2023-07-01T10:24:36.993-04:00Comments on The Gang's All Here!: Speaking of Attachment - Part 2The Gang's Momma!http://www.blogger.com/profile/12478478224173323982noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post-52237649932348925482009-11-28T21:55:02.110-05:002009-11-28T21:55:02.110-05:00To Pups n' Horses: we really feel as if her em...To Pups n' Horses: we really feel as if her emotional age needs to be "adjusted" when discussing issues like this. As my wonderful friend "Beautiful Mess," once said, in some ways she may be 27 months old but since she's only been home 14 months, she is 14 months old in some respects. Which is developmentally a normal age for separation anxiety to manifest. Further, her "independence" was borne out of self protection and survival without security. Regressing her for that short time period has been worth it to help us "rewire" her for security and unconditional love that comes with a family.The Gang's Momma!https://www.blogger.com/profile/12478478224173323982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post-46105026114233710922009-11-25T23:06:45.367-05:002009-11-25T23:06:45.367-05:00I just read both posts on attachment and they are ...I just read both posts on attachment and they are great. I have read many books and I think you are right...you need to watch your child for signs and pray, pray, pray. I can't wait to hear more.<br /><br />Happy Thanksgiving,<br />JulieJuliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12296895335515765841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post-87600968280936665812009-11-25T19:29:46.348-05:002009-11-25T19:29:46.348-05:00We're also where Sophie's mom is with bedt...We're also where Sophie's mom is with bedtime-- and I don't feel badly about it. Two years *seems* like a long enough time to be 100% but 15 months in an orphanage probably *seemed* like an even longer time... <br /><br />Anyway, thanks for sharing this-- I wish more people shared about how to practically deal with attachment, especially for kids who seem ok most of the time like Lily did. I think I could have avoided some of the mistakes we made early on if I'd watched 5 fewer gotcha day videos and instead read 5 more blogs like this :) Thankfully God's grace can cover whatever mistakes we've made as parents!Elissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07815575185189615176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post-88258848316400625112009-11-25T13:00:37.808-05:002009-11-25T13:00:37.808-05:00Question: Looking back --- would you have done t...Question: Looking back --- would you have done things differently such as getting her right into a “normal” routine rather going through the intentional regression. If I am reading it correctly and perhaps I am not – her independence was taken away, replaced with having to rely on her parents for everything. This is just a thought --- but couldn’t this be the reason, or at least part of why there is such separation anxiety?pups n horsesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post-7934945329324011322009-11-25T11:46:54.021-05:002009-11-25T11:46:54.021-05:00I need help "teaching" sophie to go to s...I need help "teaching" sophie to go to sleep on her own...2 years later with a 99% secure girl she is still in our room sleeping on her own little bed and still NEEDS me to lay down in my bed. Her cry when I leave her alone is sheer panic and desperation. I don't feel like I am being manipulated, I know what that cry sounds like:) she sleeps pretty much all night, although it isn't unusual for her to wake up around 5 a.m. **sigh**A Beautiful Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06743224608400210594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post-54880795842924422842009-11-25T10:58:58.980-05:002009-11-25T10:58:58.980-05:00Thanks for sharing!
We also had to do some intent...Thanks for sharing! <br />We also had to do some intentional regressing with our daughter. I wish I had known more at the time when we brought her home. I know I made mistakes...<br />Information like this is invaluable!!!Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953264748445346381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5751435337498664060.post-81317274967159426552009-11-25T08:27:52.320-05:002009-11-25T08:27:52.320-05:00Thanks again for speaking at our seminar. Your ta...Thanks again for speaking at our seminar. Your talk was amazing, and I still have parents talking about it! Thanks again, SarahC.R.Wooliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14638388000721707324noreply@blogger.com